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Grooms Duties

Have some fun getting involved in the planning of your wedding.



What is the first image that pops into your mind when you think about planning a wedding. For most guys, this means your fiancée, her best friend and your mother-in-law-to-be is happily shopping around and planning the whole wedding. You might not even be in this picture at all. In most cases, this is how it will probably be, however, it shouldn’t. Planning a wedding is no picnic. Help your fiancée by taking up some of the tasks, alleviating the stress and making the whole experience, a wonderful one.



Planning a wedding requires patience, dedication and hard work. It’s okay for you, as the groom to be, to leave things like the flowers, wedding favors and decorations, unless you want to be involved. There are lots of other tasks you can help her with.



The budget
Get involved in decisions such as the budget, size of the wedding, wedding date and location. Talk to your fiancée, making sure that you both know what the other one had in mind. Have these types of conversations right up front to avoid unnecessary stresses and arguments at a later stage.



Religious Matters
Are you planning to have a religious service or not? Be sure to take the time to talk to your fiancée about this. Don’t make the mistake to assume that she would want the same. If you are a mixed faith couple, get creative. If you have the funds, you might want to have two weddings. If however the marriage officer can offer a non-religious service, you might want to combine the elements and traditions of both faiths or nationalities during the wedding receptions. Religion can be a sensitive issue for a lot of people, so make sure to put some thought into this.



A Groom’s Specific Tasks 

  • Choose your wedding attendants (best man and groomsmen).
  • Select wedding attire for you and for the men in the wedding party. Do however consult your fiancée regarding this.
  • Get the groomsmen measured for the tuxedos in time.
  • Arrange transportation for the bride, father of the ride, the bridal party, best man, groomsman and yourself, to the service ad reception. Remember that you will be arriving separately, so make sure to book enough cars.
  • Arrange accommodation for guests who might have to stay the night.
  • Purchase a gift for your bride-to-be, which her best friend can give to her on the day.
  • Purchase gifts for your groomsmen.
  • Obtain the marriage license.
  • Plan the rehearsal dinner.
  • Prepare the toast for the rehearsal dinner.
  • Prepare the speech for the reception.



Some of these tasks can be done together with your fiancée but try to avoid putting anymore stress on her.



Tasks for the bride and groom 

  • Decide on the budget.
  • Finalise the date, time and location.
  • Book the venue, and pay the deposit to all service providers chosen.
  • Book the church, officiant or marriage officer.
  • Decide on the theme for your wedding so that this may be visible on all stationery, and throughout the whole wedding.
  • Book entertainment and music
  • Write up a guest list
  • Select or design wedding invitations. Remember to include your theme on the stationery.
  • Post the invites.
  • Decide on the menu for the reception, albeit a finger buffet or a three course sit down meal.
  • Hire a photographer and videographer.
  • Create a gift registry.
  • Plan the honeymoon, although most groom’s would prefer to take this upon themselves.



There is a lot expected from the groom. Although a lot of tasks may be allocated to you, you might only be required to handle one task throughout the whole process and that is… No Matter How Crazy things might get, always remember your love for one another and this is just a part of your long road together!