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Best man duties

As the best man, you are suppose to be the cool, level headed guy on whom the groom can lean during these stressful times. Here is your ‘to do’ list:

Before the wedding  

  • If the bridal couple chose a formal wedding style, arrange for tuxedo’s for the men, and make sure they are returned after the wedding. The best man is required to pay for his own clothing.
  • Host the bachelor party at least one week before the wedding.
  • Attend all pre-wedding parties, rehearsals etc if there is any.
  • Advise the ushers of their duties and make sure they arrive much earlier than the guests.



Wedding ceremony 

  • Help the groom to get ready. Try to keep him calm and make sure he arrives at the church before the bride.
  • Take care of the bride’s ring and hand it over on the groom’s request.
  • Escort the bridesmaid during the recessional.
  • Be available for photographs.
  • Discreetly pay the officiator and organist if this wasn’t done in advance.




  • Unless you are the master of ceremonies, present a toast. This would normally take place after the father of the bride’s speech, and the groom’s speech.
  • Be prepared to help and offer information to guest as to where the receptions hall / site or bathrooms are.
  • Mingle with the guests and dance with the bridesmaids and other single girls. This will compensate for the more unpleasant tasks.
  • All the bachelors attending the wedding should decorate the Honeymoon “getaway” car.



Now, lets take a few steps back to the BACHELOR PARTY!



An ancient and controversial initiation tradition…. Which nowadays not many brides are keen on because of what they see in movies and on television productions. Bachelor parties are not all bad and these days, most bachelor parties are relaxed event, not much different from the normal weekend get together’s.



In roman times, bachelor parties were only held in the military on the evening before the wedding day. The groom had to pledge his ongoing loyalty to his fellow soldiers. The bride’s father would also send a lady temptress into the camp to seduce the groom-to-be. If he gave in to the temptress, the chances would be, the father would kill him.



Obviously times have changed, giving us the modern bachelor party. The focus have shifted onto the groom and the activities for the night, should consist of things he like to do. Obviously, he mist still stay loyal to his friends after the wedding and not ignore them. As for the temptress, sometimes a stripper is invited to “tempt” the groom-to-be. Currently, adventure weekends / days are at the forefront and bachelors prefer to enjoy a day or weekend golfing, river rafting, playing paint ball etc.



Tips for the best man: 

  • When you organize the bachelor party, keep the groom in mind. Don’t take him river rafting if he can’t swim… Stick to something that the groom would like.
  • Be careful of strippers and strip clubs. Don’t just “order” a stripper from the classifieds as you will never know who or what will arrive. If you feel the need to visit an expensive strip club, stay with the clubs which is well known and reputable.
  • Don’t get the groom drunk in the 1st hour of his own bachelor’s party. Remember, it’s suppose to be a long “night” out. As the best man, you might want to slip him a few glasses of water inbetween!
  • Make sure there is a designated driver!!!



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